I. The youthful "perfection complex"

When I was young, I always thought that love should beimmaculateThe.
It was often heard in those days:

"When you're young, you shouldn't meet anyone too amazing."

For once met, the heart is never at peace.
All standards will be measured against her.

I remember when Godspell aired in 2006.
I was young that year. Liu Yifei as Little Dragon Lady.
Gentle, quiet, kind-hearted, like a fairy who doesn't eat earthly fire.
At that moment, I thought, she was probably the dream girl in the hearts of all Chinese men.

For the sake of such a person, even if the beacons are burning, I am willing to do it.
Since then, I've looked at everyone and thought, "That's not good enough."

This obsession may be the shadow of the "perfect woman" planted in the teenager's heart.
And today in the age of the Internet, too many people are still trapped in that illusion:
The pursuit of idealized "perfection" forgets the reality of life.

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Second, like, in fact, no reason

Then I slowly realized thatThere's no reason to like someone.
It's not a formula. It's not a list of conditions.
Rather, it was a sudden feeling.

Maybe it's an offhand smile.
Maybe it's a word of concern, or a small gesture.
You can't explain it, but you're impressed.

I had a crush on two very different girls--
They don't look like my ideal Dragon Lady.
But all of it made me grow.

**The first, **spiteful and capricious, but with a good heart and a sincere love of money.
I just watched her silently from a distance; she married young and happily.
I wish her well from the bottom of my heart.

The second, sweet and adorable, is selfish and mean, paranoid and irritable.
Full of lies and deception, let me understand:
Don't try to save or change anyone.
You should have chosen someone who was already good.

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III. From disgust to understanding: values and sincerity

I used to have a strong dislike for people who wrote "card face, card money" on their social media platforms.
I think love should bepure(math.) genus
It shouldn't be tied to money or material things.

At that time, I even loathed the expression from the bottom of my heart.
It's like when some guys say vulgar things in the comments section.
Makes one's head drop instantly.

But then I grew to understand--
The pursuit of the good is inherently costly.
If you want to raise a rose, you have to be willing to water, fertilize, and prune.

Girls who are honest about what they want.
Perhaps more sincere than those who "pretend to be noble".
They don't pretend, they don't pretend.
Their directness, on the contrary, is aNaked purity.

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IV. A true relationship, built on values and sincerity

I'm coming to realize that
Whether it's friendship or love, the strongest relationships that
All built onValue exchange is consistent with worldviewAbove.

You have to give to receive.
And the most important thing to give.
It's not the money. It's not the face.
Instead--Integrity, sincerity and goodwill.

Love is not an ideal sculpture.
It's more like a long grind.
There are those who would prune the branches, those who would water the patience that
The flower, then, will bloom long and brightly.

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V. Epilogue: From Perfection to Tenderness

I'm no longer looking for the "perfect" person.
I'm looking forward to that real, warm presence more than anything else.

She may not be perfect.
But she is kind, empathetic, and powerful.
She doesn't make me look up - she makes me look side by side.

Love, after all, is not a myth.
ratherTwo people in the midst of worldly smoke and mirrors.
Tenderly becoming each other.

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🖋️
By Sean Liu
May you be on your way to understanding "perfection."
And learn to love.Imperfect tenderness.